Some words can have a negative effect on our performance or drive. Even in our everyday lives we use negative words, we should try to be more positive.
I want to list the words I believe we should use less and replace with positive words.
I hear this word way too much.
” I can’t do that!” Have you tried? Why not? Oh yes because you have just told yourself you ‘can’t’ and therefore now you won’t.
This is such a negative word. It stops you doing something or even trying again after failing. If you struggle to do something you should try again and again till you can or you gave it your best shot.
For example I had a client who said they couldn’t do a press up. I told them they could try there knees first. They did it, and then we went to the toes and they managed that too. We then got to 10 full press ups in a few weeks. They were willing to try. They thought they couldn’t ever do it but with baby steps and my encouragement they did it. My client could haven refused and would have never felt the great feeling of accomplishment when they reached something they believed they couldn’t do.
never ever ever?
“I can never seem to stick to my diet” or “I can never be as fit as my friend.” Why not? Who is standing in your way? Oh yes…. you are!
You will be able to do it if you don’t fail at the first hurdle by telling yourself you already failed. That’s never good motivation. Plus judging yourself against others doesn’t help. Even when used in sentences like “I never ever believed I would be able to do that.” Well course you could, you just never believed in yourself.
Believe… make it happen. If you need help to do it… ask!
If you “hate” an exercise it’s usually because it is good for you. This word only describes your feelings towards it to ward you off doing it. Therefore it’s a negative word, try using ‘I dislike that exercise because I find it hard but with practice I’m sure I will get better at it.’ This is a more positive statement. That way you are being more positive towards something you find hard but are willing to try. If you don’t try then you will not get any better and therefore you do not succeed… and we all want to succeed in our goals.
4. Bulky – firstly… what a word!
‘I don’t want to use weights as I feel I will look bulky.’ Uh no, your muscles grow and become more shapely, but that’s not bulky. If your a women you will not be getting bulky anyway as most women don’t have the testosterone levels to gain massive amounts of muscle. Instead you will lean up and be able to define your muscles. This is the word “tone” that people use all the time. It’s not bulky at all.
5. Manly – Again the average women will not look “manly” even with lifting heavy weights seven days a week. Unless you are protein powdering your life away/taking extra supplements and injecting testosterone (or born with higher testosterone levels than most women) it’s very hard to look “manly.” Sorry but not going to happen by lifting heavier weights I’m afraid. So grab those 10kg weights and start pumping ladies. No excuses now to work up a sweat!!
6. Low carb – ok brilliant, so despite all my training in nutrition that says 50-60 % of your calorie intake needs to be carbohydrate based… some people still try to go low carb. Why? Because you believe that cutting them out will help you lose weight of course. Well not all carbs are bad. You have two types, sugary and starchy carbs. The sugary carbs you should definitely cut down or eliminate, e.g. Crisps, cake, white bread etc. Then there are starchy carbs that are good for you and provide fibre for digestion and are slow releasing. Carbs give us our energy so without them we start to feel fatigued. This is why people don’t usually last long on a low carb diet and when they start eating carbs again it’s usually the wrong ones. Stick to sweet potato, white potato, brown rice, brown pasta, couscous etc.
Someone like myself that likes running and being active needs carbs to fuel the energy expenditure and refuel muscle glycogen. Without carbs personal bests and hiit training wouldn’t happen.
Let’s try and be more positive with the words we use and we may feel more positive towards ourselves and training. I am always here to help and answer any of your questions. Please message me email@example.com